I wonder if something traumatic happened to you when you were 4 years old which was maybe triggered by your youngest turning four? I'm fascinated by phobias and used to have a fear of flying. When we're very young, we're starting to learn that we have an effect on the world around us, and if something goes wrong out of the blue, we think…
I wonder if something traumatic happened to you when you were 4 years old which was maybe triggered by your youngest turning four? I'm fascinated by phobias and used to have a fear of flying. When we're very young, we're starting to learn that we have an effect on the world around us, and if something goes wrong out of the blue, we think it's because of something we did. That was the psychology behind my fear of flying, and as David says, once I got to the emotions that underpinned it, the fear vanished.
I remember little to nothing from that age. I grew up in a large family, 14 kids, 7 when I was 4. My parents were good people who cared deeply for not only their own children but for the community as well.
My father was alcoholic as am I. I’m a long time sober but the disease killed my dad at age 59. His alcoholism progressed but was not full blown until after I became an adult.
It’s possible but it would probably take more years than I have left to figure out if something in my childhood was responsible.
Sorry to hear about the loss of your father. I think you are right that like alcoholism, phobias can be deep and complex, with no easy formula to explain or ease them. You could spend a lifetime trying to get to the bottom of these things.
I wonder if something traumatic happened to you when you were 4 years old which was maybe triggered by your youngest turning four? I'm fascinated by phobias and used to have a fear of flying. When we're very young, we're starting to learn that we have an effect on the world around us, and if something goes wrong out of the blue, we think it's because of something we did. That was the psychology behind my fear of flying, and as David says, once I got to the emotions that underpinned it, the fear vanished.
I remember little to nothing from that age. I grew up in a large family, 14 kids, 7 when I was 4. My parents were good people who cared deeply for not only their own children but for the community as well.
My father was alcoholic as am I. I’m a long time sober but the disease killed my dad at age 59. His alcoholism progressed but was not full blown until after I became an adult.
It’s possible but it would probably take more years than I have left to figure out if something in my childhood was responsible.
Sorry to hear about the loss of your father. I think you are right that like alcoholism, phobias can be deep and complex, with no easy formula to explain or ease them. You could spend a lifetime trying to get to the bottom of these things.
Thank you!